February 13, 2011

Ah Shucks, I'm Lame

Today I came to the realization that I am not interesting.
Now before you go getting your panties in a twist, this is completely, 100% my own fault and not parenthood in general.. but doesn't make it any less lame.
I talked to a friend on the phone. It went like this:

Me: Hey! Long time no talk. Whatcha been up to?
Her: Oh I've been working... and going out.. and hanging with my roommates... and going to school. This, this, this, and oh this. How about you? How's Ro?
Me: She's great! She's holding her head up a lot better since you last saw her and her poop's been lookin real good and she laughs at these voices ::actually making the voices:: and I'm doing laundry and cleaning and I think I made a new friend through the blog!
Her: Oh... well that's cool (not) I bet you're loving being a mom.
Me: Oh yea, I just miss my friends, I need to have a conversation that's not in a high pitched voice.
Her: haha
Me: haha yea
Her: ::silence::
Me: SO... yea
Her: Ok well I don't have any plans for tuesday night so I'll call you and maybe come by?
 Her: Bye
Me: ::still over eager:: BYEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then we talked to a couple of friends that came by. It went like this:

Them: We're getting married and moving to Colorado and I'm graduating college and he's continuing college and we're both playing music and working and having bbqs and going to shows and seeing people that are the same height as us... how about you guys?
Us: D works, I play with Ro all day. ::some talk about what I'm actually writing about right now:: and I never see all my busy pants buddies and I wish I knew more moms my age so we could have play dates....
Them: Ok , well we're hungry and think we'll go out to a fabulous dinner now so thanks for having us and letting us come see Ro! Bye!! 
Us: byeeeeee ::please don't go, it was so nice having friends over and why the heck don't we have people over more often again???::

I feel like I have nothing to talk about except for babies and blogging and I'm realizing that we've been hiding away in "new parents land" for long enough. It's time to get out there and see the world! See our friends! See ourselves again! And I don't mean sans Rowan partying.. I just mean we need to GET OUT THA HOUSE!
Ya feel me?

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  1. Oh my god Jess I SO know what you mean. I've been totally bumming on the same thing, so that's why Hank and I had a super jam packed day today so I would feel like we did SOMETHING. It's seriously hard. We've been in "new parents land" too and juuuust starting to venture out- and it feels soo good! :)

    If only we lived in the same place, we could have rad double dates and go on shopping trips. Boo hoo distance!

    I hope you have a great day <3

  2. I know a lot of my friends that have had babies recently are struggling with the same things. (I could talk babies all day long, but we don't have any yet, so maybe that's why...)

    My friends with a little bit older kids are all totally past the "new parents phase" and I'm sure you will work out the kinks soon, and lucky you, you get to enjoy motherhood in a way some moms don't, and that's pretty rad!

  3. You took the words right out of my mouth. I seriously talk about this so much on my blog too. I think its just adjusting to parenthood, it won't always be like this. right , right? The thing is you said it outloud (aka to the blog world) so things will change! Just know I'm right there with ya (and all my other momma friends say the same thing)
    I love your blog!

  4. I feel the same way and it really sucks for me considering all my old friends are out partying. Oh well I love my bebeh!

    The Sweetest Life

  5. i have the same problem...i always feel i have nothing new or interesting to say.

  6. You're not lame. You've just become a momma! I do understand, though. My little one isn't even here yet and she's all I talk about. I can see my childless friends tuning me out while they think of a subject to change the topic to.

  7. Oh man do I feel ya! Too bad you live a bajillion miles away, cause we could totally hang out and have some extremely LAME convos together!

  8. uggggghhhhhhhhhh story of my life. i totally get this.

  9. I know this feeling so well! The second I got pregnant, 25% of friends gone. Once he was born, another 25%... and finally, once they had to hear 1 too many stories that didn't involve getting drunk, that 25% was gone.

    So the last 25% you ask? Well, those consist of family [they count, right? hah] and friends that went off, moved away, and are doing great things with their young, partying, non-poop conversation lives.

    Hang in there, one day us lonely mommy's will have to build up each others courage to creep on poor women at the park with their children. Until then, we have the internet hahaha

  10. HAhahaha!!! Those conversations all sound so familiar!

  11. I've totally run into that problem too. I'm the first of all of my friends to get married and then have a baby. And they look at me like I'm crazy when I'm talking about baby stuff. The past month or so my hubby and I have made an effort to get out more with our daughter whose 6 months now, and it has made all of our lives so much more enjoyable!!! We were going stir crazy staying in the house all the time!

  12. haha this is STILL me on so many levels, and I have a near-two year old.

  13. Well, I guess I'll out myself as a blog lurker now :) Saw your blog through Marinas. I know just how you feel because it's a huge adjustment, but before long everyone either catches up to you, get's used to you and makes a point to be a part of your new life, or moves on and that's ok too. That's what I've found at least. Anyway, if you're ever around the north shore/Laie area come hang with us! There's maybe too many of us Mamas around here. It's fun though. Anyway, while I'm finally speaking up- loved the new song. I love that band. My husband plays drums in Upstanding Youth if you've ever heard them. Ok, keep being awesome! :)

  14. haha I love "going to shows and seeing people our own height." I also find myself a little too chatty with adults I do get to interact with, like store clerks.. You know I am beginning to think they aren't actually interested in "how I am today" and when they say "have a nice day" they are just doing their job, they don't want to be my friend.darn.

  15. well, glad to know i'm not the only one! haha!

    stephanie joy: haha thanks for saying hello! we very rarely venture out to north shore but next time we do i'll try to get in touch with you through marina! thanks for the offer, new friends are ALWAYS nice! ;o)

  16. I have been the same way lately, everything in my life is wrapped around with kids and blogging. Or when I get out the house its for Hayden's sake. I want to meet more Mom's and have playdates and go out with my girlfriends. Even meet more people in general. *sigh* I totally get what you are saying, that has been me this whole week, you said it better than I could have.

  17. I have been feeling the exact same way. Comforting to know it is a common feeling but it still sucks.

  18. totally TOTALLY feel ya...and apparently i'm not alone. phew!

  19. I know I'm late on this, but I'm pretty sure we have the same problem with our "friends". And I say it like that because they are SLOWLY disappearing. I can't help but talk about BABY stuff or parenting. We are parents after all. But most of our friends are out partying it up, graduating college, and it leaves me feeling like we are all just in different places. But I do agree about getting out of the house. THAT helps a lot!!